I’ve always heard that life takes you through seasons, some good, and some bad. However, I have to say that up until last year, I hadn’t experienced anything that I would call a tough season. Of course, I’ve gone through tough times just like the next person. But last year was the first time I’d say I felt overwhelmed by the amount of things that seemed to not be going right or as planned, all of a sudden, and all at one time.
A lot of women tend to need to feel as if they are always in control of their lives. They give 110% to keep everything in check, personally and professionally. I’m the first to admit that I am no exception in my desire of this impossible standard. My mom once told me that because of my successes, she feared I wouldn’t know how to handle my inevitable setbacks or hardships. As always, she was right because when I reflect back on that period of time, I realize how hard I was on myself.
However, after going through certain things, I now know that every situation, circumstance, and experience was necessary for my self-growth. Not only have I grown as a person and as a woman, I also feel better prepared to take on anything that life has in store for me good and bad. And at the end of the day, I’m incredibly thankful for that. Below I’m sharing a few tips and suggestions on things that helped me transition from a tough time to brighter days. Hopefully, they’re as useful to you as they were to me:
- Be okay with the fact that everything is NOT going okay. The truth is, at some point, we’ll all experience difficult times. Even though it sucks, It’s okay to allow yourself some time to feel crappy about it. In certain circumstances, sadness is a normal emotion, and it’s okay to feel that, no apologies necessary.
- Remember to take care of yourself. Eat healthy balanced meals, and try to find a way to relieve stress. For some people that could be exercising but for you, it could be something less intensive. Personally, I love running because it’s convenient, allows me to clear my head, and I always feel great afterward. If you’re not a runner, try going for a long walk, scheduling a massage, or dedicating time in your day for meditation.
- Don’t keep everything in your head. I’ve been on my own for so long; this one was hard for me. Mostly because I never want my family and friends to worry while they are thousands of miles away. However, I quickly realized that trying to keep everything to myself was exhausting. Bottom line, have someone that you trust and can confide in. Once you start to organize and analyze your thoughts, you’ll likely start to gain clarity which will help you to accomplish tip number 4.
- Do something. At some point, the only way your situation will get better is if you make some tough decisions and take action. That doesn’t mean that you have to figure everything out at once, but you need to take positive steps to move forward. It’s about the solution, not the problem!
- Stay positive. I know this is easier said than done but it necessary to stay positive and chase out those negative thoughts. Even if you’re not feeling it, search out something or someone that is. Personally, I relied heavily on my faith. I also started to read for pleasure again which is something that I loved but had often found myself too busy to do. I also listened to a ton of inspirational podcasts. Seriously, if you’re not subscribed to at least five podcasts you’re missing out.
Does this sound familiar? Anyone else experience this? Leave me a comment below with your thoughts.
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