Spending The Holiday Season Alone; 8 Do’s & Don’ts

Spending The Holiday Season Alone

Thanksgiving (one of my favorite holidays) is almost here!  I’m especially excited because this year my mom will be in Atlanta with me to enjoy it.  Bonus that she’ll likely do most of the cooking and I have no complaints about that!

For me Thanksgiving is usually chill with a focus on enjoying the day off, eating a good meal, possibly spending time with family and friends, and watching some Cowboys football.

I say possibly on the family/friends front because as someone who’s been living away from home for over 15 years now, I’ve spent plenty of holidays completely on my own and have learned to survive them without the bout of “holiday blues” that can sneak up.

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Matter of fact, I now consider myself somewhat of an expert on spending the holiday season alone and in this post, I’d like to share some of the dos and don’ts that I’ve learned over the years.

These will be especially helpful for those of you who are celebrating this year away from home, your family and/or friends for the first time; or those of you who still haven’t mastered basking in the holiday spirit even if you’re a party of one!

  • Do – Take advantage of your day off and sleep in; no alarm clock necessary.

Don’t – Sleep the entire day away.

  • Do – Cook yourself a good meal.  It doesn’t have to be the traditional Thanksgiving food.  You can also make something that you love but don’t always have the time to prepare during your normal day to day.

Don’t – Pull up to Boston Market and order the turkey and potatoes.  Nothing against Boston Market, but speaking from experience,  I can guarantee you’re going to enjoy whatever you decided to cook a lot more.

  • Do – Call your family and allow them to pass the phone around as you speak to cousins, uncles, aunts and whoever else happens to be around!  Nothing says you can’t be part of those festivities, even if you’re miles away.

Don’t –  Don’t be Ms. Grumpster, avoiding calls and texts all day, only to make a couple of quick calls before the day ends so you won’t feel guilty about it tomorrow.

  • Do – Accept the invite to spend the day with that coworker or church member (someone you know but are not that close to).   You may find yourself having the most fun you’ve had in a long time!

Don’t – Lie about having plans only to spend the day feeling lonely and depressed.

  • Do – Make the best use of your time!  Quiet holidays are prime time for me to get some work done on my blog. I turn on some music, light a candle, sip some wine, and get it done.

Don’t – Allow the day to pass without doing anything productive! Even if productive means catching up on all your DVR’d shows (;-).

  • Do – Take advantage of the early sales.  After the food has settled and the football has been watched; I will usually head out to Macy’s and do a little shopping.

Don’t – Participate in Black Friday before the sun comes up.  In 2017 I personally think that tradition is somewhat outdated.  Especially since most of the deals can now be shopped online right from the comfort of your home.

  • Do – Get a good night sleep and go to work the next day, on time, positive attitude in tow.

Don’t – Show up and be that disgruntle coworker that complains the whole day about not being able to have the day off.  WE all have one of those in the office; don’t be her!

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Are you spending the holidays alone this year or are you anticipating a big family gathering? Let me know in the comments section how you plan to spend it!

If you are solo, I encourage you to follow the do’s and don’ts in this post and I promise your holiday season will be as enjoyable as you make it.

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Until next time,

XoXo, Keyva Jo




  1. G
    November 13, 2017 / 6:46 pm

    Great post. Those DON’Ts are pretty funny but true. Thanks for sharing. ??

  2. November 20, 2017 / 10:29 am

    I’ll be with my family but these do’s and don’ts are really great!

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