Today is my 36th birthday! And this year more than any other, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting. I often come across posts from people who have written to their younger selves and think, what I would tell a younger Keyva? As she waves goodbye to her mom and boards the bus to Lackland Air Force Base? What would I tell her a few years later as she boards a plane to South Korea for a tour that would set off a chain reaction of decisions. That would lead to her sitting in her dining room at her home in Atlanta, Georgia writing this blog post?
Obviously, I can’t tell her anything, but I can tell you! So, for the 20 somethings or even 30 somethings that comes across this post, on my 36th birthday, here are ten life lessons I’d like to share with you!
1. You may think that you are a “grown woman” in your twenties, and while technically and legally you are, you have so much left to learn, and LIFE will be your teacher.
2. Don’t sacrifice your ambition to make someone feel better about their insecurities. Recognize it, embrace it, and lean into it.
3. You’ll find your “crew” when you’re least expecting it. Seriously, in no way could I have imagined two talkative and lively women from Virginia would befriend an introverted small town Texan like myself, and that they would become my sisters. Yet, somehow God placed me smack in their lives, and we’ve seen each other through the best and worst of times.
4. The guy you’re dating may not be the love of your life. I’ll remind you here that some people are only in your life for a season, and it’s your responsibility to learn whatever it is you’re supposed to learn from them before the relationship runs its course.
5. Avoid credit card debt at all costs! Trust me, as someone who is still paying off credit card debt from my twenties, making monthly payments to credit card companies is not a form of adulting that you want!
6. Find a hobby, something that you love to do when you need a break from the day to day grind. Bonus points if it’s something you can turn into another stream of income!
7. Establish healthy eating and exercise habits now when you may not necessarily need them. Why now? So that you already have that discipline in your thirties and beyond. Your body, physically and mentally, will thank you for it.
8. Take “all the flights,”; both literally and figuratively! To an extent, we all have some fear of change, experiencing new things, and the unknown. But don’t let that fear be so overwhelming that it has you looking back and thinking, “I wish I would have.”
9. No matter how far you go, don’t stray too far away from home. If you move away from home, find ways to visit and speak with your family and friends no matter the distance. The traditions that made you laugh and smile and bring back such fond memories; keep them alive as you start to navigate the grown-up version of your life. Don’t abandon the values that your parents and grandparents instilled in you, instead, pass them on to everyone you meet.
10. Master your personal AND professional elevator pitch now! Know who you are and what you bring into any room at any time. Never stop learning and never stop growing, in life and love and everything in between!
So on my 36th birthday I pass these lessons on to you, and as with all my posts, I hope that you get something from them. Now, I’m off to enjoy the rest of my 36th birthday at home. While we can’t do it big like we usually would, we do have take out from one of my favorite restaurants and a movie planned for later this evening!
Until my next post, stay safe, stay home, and stay positive!